3 Transformational Ways To Expand Beyond Fear, Self-Doubt & Judgement
- Kally Joanne
- Mar 23
- 7 min read
Updated: Mar 28
Welcome to another episode of *Magnetic Me*, where we step into our most confident, radiant, and magnetic selves.
Self-doubt, fear, and judgment are three of the biggest obstacles standing between you and the life you truly desire. They keep you small, hesitant, and disconnected from your highest self. Over the next three transformational days, we’ll focus on overcoming these limitations through expansion, trust, and boundaries.
Each day, we’ll explore why it matters, action steps to embody the lesson, affirmations to reprogram your subconscious, gratitude to shift your energy, journal prompts for deeper reflection, and a self-care ritual to integrate the transformation.
Let’s begin.
Self-doubt is killer of dreams. It tells you that you’re not ready, that you’re not enough, that you’ll fail. And so, you wait. You hesitate. You play small.
But here’s the truth: confidence isn’t something you magically wake up with one day. It’s built through action. Every time you take a step outside of your comfort zone, you send a message to your subconscious and the universal energy saying that: "I can do this. I am capable."
Expanding your comfort zone is about proving to yourself that fear does not define you. You are stronger than the voice in your head that tells you to stay safe and hidden.
Action Step:
~ Do something slightly uncomfortable but aligned with the version of you who is powerful and seen.
- If you struggle with visibility: Post a video sharing something meaningful.
- If you avoid speaking up: Assert your opinion without over-explaining or apologizing.
- If you fear rejection: Reach out to someone who inspires you and start a conversation.
- If you hold back from opportunities: Say yes to something that excites and scares you.
Affirmations:
1. I expand beyond my fears and step into my power.
2. I am safe to be seen, heard, and fully expressed.
3. Every time I step outside of my comfort zone, I become stronger.
Gratitude Statements:
1. I am grateful for my courage to take bold action.
2. I appreciate the lessons discomfort teaches me.
3. I am thankful for every opportunity that helps me grow.
Journal Prompts:
1. Where in my life am I letting fear hold me back?
2. What’s one thing I’ve always wanted to do but haven’t because it feels uncomfortable?
3. How will my future self thank me for the action I take today?
Self-Care Ritual:
Take a cold shower or stand outside in the fresh air, feeling the discomfort in your body. Let it remind you that you can handle anything. Then, wrap yourself in something cosy as a symbol of safety in your expansion.
Todays Questions
Q1: How can I push past my fear of judgment and expand my comfort zone?
It’s normal to feel fear when stepping outside of your comfort zone, especially if you worry about how others will perceive you. The key is to start small and do something slightly uncomfortable each day that aligns with the person you’re becoming. Action breeds confidence. As you take these small steps, you'll notice that the fear of judgment becomes less powerful, and your confidence will grow. Remember, your comfort zone is meant to expand; each challenge is an opportunity to step into your most powerful, authentic self.
Q2: What if I fail or make mistakes while expanding my comfort zone?
Failure is a natural part of growth. When you push yourself beyond your comfort zone, you're bound to face challenges along the way. But remember, failure is not the opposite of success; it’s a part of it. Mistakes are opportunities to learn and refine your approach. Every time you try something new, you’re gaining valuable experience and resilience. Rather than seeing mistakes as setbacks, reframe them as stepping stones toward becoming the most confident and powerful version of yourself.
Fear and self-doubt thrive in a scarcity mindset; the belief that what you desire is far away, difficult, or impossible. But true manifestation happens effortlessly when you shift from wanting to having.
The more we chase something, the more we reinforce the idea that we don’t have it. But when we step into the energy of already having it, the universe responds in kind.
Gratitude is the secret ingredient to effortless manifestation. When you express thanks for something before it happens, you align yourself with the frequency of receiving.
Action Step:
Write a “thank you” note as if what you want has already happened. Speak it into existence with deep gratitude.
Example: "Thank you, for the incredible opportunities, aligned people, and financial abundance flowing into my life. I am so grateful for the confidence I feel every day and the ease with which I attract my desires. It is already done."
Affirmations:
1. I am already living in the energy of my desires.
2. Everything I want is effortlessly drawn to me.
3. I trust in divine timing and my ability to receive.
Gratitude Statements:
1. I am grateful for the unseen forces working in my favour.
2. I appreciate the signs and synchronicities guiding me every day.
3. I am thankful for the abundance already present in my life.
Journal Prompts:
1. How would I feel and act today if I truly believed my desires were already on their way?
2. Where in my life am I operating from a scarcity mindset?
3. What are three things I can do today to step into the energy of having rather than wanting?
Self-Care Ritual:
Light a candle and write your thank-you note. Read it out loud, feeling the emotions as if it has already happened. Visualise your desires manifesting with ease. Keep the note somewhere visible as a daily reminder.
Todays Questions
Q1: What if I feel resistance or doubt when writing the "thank you" note?
Resistance and doubt are completely normal, especially when you’re stretching beyond your comfort zone. If you feel resistance, acknowledge it without judgment, and then gently guide yourself back to the feeling of gratitude. Writing the "thank you" note is a way to rewire your subconscious mind and build trust in the process. The more you practice it, the easier it becomes to believe in the possibility of your desires. Start small, be patient with yourself, and trust the process.
Q2: How can I truly believe that my desires are already manifested when I haven't seen results yet?
It can be challenging to embody the belief that your desires are already here when they haven't yet materialised in your life. The key is to practice faith and alignment. Write the "thank you" note as if your desires have already come to fruition because it shifts your mindset from lack to abundance. This practice helps you connect emotionally with the future version of yourself who has already achieved what you want, making it easier to take inspired actions. Trust that the universe is always working behind the scenes, even when you can't see it yet.
Fear of judgment - especially from the people closest to us - can be one of the biggest barriers to self-trust and confidence.
From a spiritual perspective, the people close to us often resist our growth because it challenges their own comfort zones. They’ve known us as a certain version of ourselves, and when we evolve, it can feel unsettling for them.
Sometimes, their doubt, criticism, or lack of support isn’t about us at all; it’s a reflection of their own fears. When we understand this, we can release resentment and focus on protecting our energy.
Setting boundaries doesn’t mean shutting people out. It means honouring yourself, refusing to shrink, and choosing relationships that uplift you rather than deplete you.
Action Step:
Journal about the things you are no longer available for.
Here are some examples:
- I am no longer available for conversations that drain my energy.
- I am no longer available for guilt-based decision-making.
- I am no longer available for people who do not respect my growth.
Affirmations:
1. I honour my energy by setting healthy boundaries.
2. I release the need for validation from others.
3. My growth is mine to own, and I do not shrink for anyone.
Gratitude Statements:
1. I am grateful for the lessons the people in my life have taught me, even the difficult ones.
2. I appreciate the strength it takes to stand in my truth.
3. I am thankful for the people in my life who uplift and respect me.
Journal Prompts:
1. Where do I feel the most resistance when setting boundaries?
2. How do I typically respond to judgement, and how can I shift that response?
3. What does a life with strong energetic boundaries feel like for me?
Self-Care Ritual:
Take a salt bath or shower to cleanse your energy. As the water flows over you, visualise washing away attachments that no longer serve you. Imagine a golden light surrounding you, protecting you from negativity.
Todays Questions
Q1: What if setting boundaries with people close to me causes conflict?
It’s natural to feel concerned that setting boundaries will create tension or conflict, especially with the friends and family that are closest to us. Remember, energetic boundaries aren’t about shutting people out - they’re about protecting your energy so that you can show up as your best self. While some resistance or discomfort may arise, the goal is to communicate your needs clearly and respectfully. Over time, you may find that others respect your boundaries, and you’ll feel empowered to prioritise your own well-being. Conflicts may arise, but remember - you're not responsible for others' discomfort; you're responsible for your own peace.
Q2: How do I know if I’m setting healthy boundaries?
Healthy boundaries come from a place of self-respect and love, not from a place of fear or control. If you feel empowered and at peace when you set a boundary, it’s likely healthy. However, if you feel defensive or closed off, it might be helpful to reassess the boundary to ensure it’s not coming from a place of fear or avoidance. The key is balance; setting boundaries that protect your energy without isolating yourself from love and connection. Healthy boundaries allow for growth and connection, while unhealthy boundaries shut people out unnecessarily.
Final Thoughts
These three days are a powerful shift in how you show up for yourself. Expansion, gratitude, and boundaries are the antidotes to fear, self-doubt, and judgment.
You are stepping into a new level of confidence, trust, and self-respect.
If this episode resonated with you, share your breakthroughs with me—I’d love to hear what shifts for you!
Remember, you are already magnetic. It’s just about stepping into that truth.
Until next time, stay radiant, stay powerful, and keep expanding. 💫
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